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Kalpana Nair

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The Toxic Trap – Part 3 of 3

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Kalpana Nair In Part 1 and 2 of the TOI Blog ‘The Toxic Trap’, you have seen that as per Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, Love & Belonging are intrinsic elements of human behaviour and to want this is primal in every individual. The Toxic Trap is when faulty wirin... More »

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The Toxic Trap – Part 2 of 3

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Kalpana Nair In Part 1 of ‘The Toxic Trap TOI Blog’ you have seen that Maslow’s correlation is sometimes, intentionally misused by those that claim to love you and care for you. Your needing the motivation from love and care is not wrong at all, however, the p... More »

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The ‘Toxic-Relationship’ Trap – Part 1 of 3

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Kalpana Nair This ‘Toxic Relationship Trap’ is insidious and spread over a long period of time and makes you believe it is ‘true, intense, soul-stirring love,’ and all the small-everyday-spats with your loved one (partner, spouse, sibling, parent, work colleag... More »

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Your blind Spots

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Kalpana Nair The dictionary defines a ‘blind spot’ as an area in your range of vision that you cannot see properly. For example, when you are driving a car, the area just behind your shoulders is often a blind spot. Likewise every person has a few ‘blind spots... More »

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To the last lease

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Kalpana Nair She was full of life, effervescent, extroverted and just `got into’ every situation she was put in and brought it to life. So much life in one person, that she probably extracted more out of it than many would. My mother, who died 1 year ago, on M... More »

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Loving Yourself

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Kalpana Nair In my line of work, this concept about `Loving Yourself’ usually generates awkward reactions. It is always thought of as something that is being made into a big discussion point unnecessarily. The usual response is “Why make a big deal about lovin... More »

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Are You `Flipping It’ Or Flipping Out?

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Kalpana Nair Stress is a sure shot way to disease, anxiety, relationship, diet and myriad other problems. It is very easy to preach meditation and give you a `9 Steps to a Stress-Free You Formula’, but I can guarantee that none of that will ever work on you. Y... More »

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Bill Gates’ burger and fries spiritual diet

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Kalpana Nair Bill Gates standing in line just like an ordinary guy for burger and fries. Apart from making us crave junk food, it shows how money can also create a man unaffected by its grip or power or status. So many of us cannot help but put on pretences an... More »

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Mumbai…Respectfully yours,

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Kalpana Nair Mumbai has never been so vibrant and alive as it is now. Its children, with their neon coloured clothes and gadgets. It is a wonderful time to be a kid. The pressure, however, gets to… via TOI Blog More »